Illness actually can be a gift. It shows you who is worth wasting your time on, who’s worth getting to know, who possesses human decency. It’s reminded me of my own value because I can still love myself. Despite what society tries to tell us, I’m more than my diagnosis.
Cancer fcuking sucks. Being sick and held prisoner in one’s own body, sucks.
But gorram it if it isn’t a hell of a teacher.
I see a lot of so-called listicles littering the Internet, so here’s one more for the pile. Darius Foroux of “The Observer” published a cool list of “things I wish I had known ten years ago,” and as I read through it, I was just like, hell yeah, this is a lot like what getting sick has taught me [it’s like the fast-track academic course of life, I guess.]
So here’s my modified lil’ list of feel-good one-liners for those days I’ve been too sick to leave my bed, hahaha [only half kidding]:
- Struggle Is Good
Never say “I can’t take it anymore.” Say “Bring it on!”
- Don’t Complain
Complaining is the biggest waste of time there is. Either do something about it, but if you can’t, shut up about it.
- Spend Time With People You Love
That’s your family and best friends. If you don’t have a family, create one. Most people in life are only visitors. Family is for life, and people will always be more important than achievements or possessions.
- Don’t Start [Or Continue] A Relationship If You’re Not In Love
I’ve done this more than once. You kind of like someone and think: “We might as well give it a shot.” Not a good idea. You’re either in love, or you are not. Don’t fool yourself. It’s not fair to you or the other person.
- Exercise Daily
A healthy body is where you have to start everything in life, and you only get one. Cherish it, take care of it. Eat a gorram salad even if you hate the taste.
- Keep A Journal
The Internet is not your diary. Journaling keeps me saner than I would be otherwise.
- Be Grateful
Say ‘thank you’ to everyone and everything. “Thank you for this beautiful day.” “Thank you for your email.” “Thank you for being there for me.”
- Don’t Care About What People Think
We all die in the end, do you really think it matters what people think of you? Fcuk that noise.
- Take More Risks
Don’t be such a wimp.
- Pick An Industry, Not A Job
If you want to become good at something, you need to spend years and years doing that. You can’t do that if you hop from industry to industry. Pick an industry you love and start at the bottom. You will find the perfect role for you eventually.
- Lead The Way
When you find yourself in a situation where everyone looks at each other, it’s time for you to lead. You‘re a leader when you decide to become one. There’s no initiation or a title. Just a decision.
- Money Isn’t Important
It really isn’t. Train yourself not to care about money. Don’t become too dependent on the stuff you own — otherwise, the stuff will own you.
- Understand How Money Works
Having said that…people who think money is ‘just a tool’ probably also think that oxygen is ‘just’ an element. Money can have a protective quality. When have your own, you don’t have to rely on other people as much. Sustainability is the ultimate end-goal.
- Be Nice
I don’t mean you should be a pushover. You can be someone that doesn’t take sh1t and be nice about it. Just don’t insult people, think you’re better than them, or act like a jerk.
- Learn Every Day
You’ve got to train your brain to stay alert. You don’t have to read a book a day to learn every day. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the people around you — be open to what they can teach you.
- Rest When You Are Tired [Or Better Yet, Before]
Even if you love your job, and every day seems like a holiday, you need to take time to rest. You’re a human and not an android, never forget that.
- Don’t Judge
Just because people make different choices than you, they are not stupid. Also, you don’t know everything about people, so don’t judge them — help them.
- Think Of Others
Be mindful, that’s all. We all have families, bills to pay, and our own issues. It’s not always aboput you. Be compassionate, it’s worth it. Live and act with a purpose. Why are we here if not to help one another?
- Give Without Expecting Something In Return
Don’t keep score, it is the fastest path to bitterness. Give solely for the joy of giving. If you get something in return, great, if you don’t, great.
- There’s No End Game
No one exists on purpose. Don’t try to figure it all out. Enjoy your journey.
- Enjoy Small Things
I like clichés because they are true. Especially this one. You know why? Everyone says they know it, but no one lives up to it. They just chase big things.
- Don’t Take Yourself So Seriously
Yeah, yeah, you’re an individual, and people have to take you seriously, I get it. But at the end of the day, we’re all a bunch of ants trying to chase the same things. In five million years, the sun will expand & engulf our orbit as the charred ember that was once Earth vaporizes. Lighten up.
- Don’t Blame People
What’s point? Do you want to punish them? You don’t do that to people. Also don’t blame yourself — you’re only human.
- Create Something
Not to leave a legacy, you won’t be here to see it anyway, but to be of use. Make music, write a book, build a table, anything. You’ll feel good about yourself, plus you give something back to people to use or enjoy.
- Never Look Back Too Long
Reflecting on the past is only good for one thing: Learning.
- The Path Is Not Straight
Questions are just as important as answers and there’s no such thing as a shortcut, at least not to anyplace worth going. And the road to success is always under construction, so be ready for detours.
- Be Gentle With Your Parents
Kindness matters, give it freely. Breathe deep, and often.
- Mistakes Need Not Be Fatal
Never underestimate the power of a sincere apology. If nothing else, you’ll feel better for trying.
- Don’t Dream It, Be It!
All my best life advice comes from Dr. Frank-N-Furter ❤
There, that’s my spiel. One bullet point for every year of my life thus far.
But hey, what the fcuk do I know? 😉
Mi’iwi [that’s all]